Is Gayle Arciel Celis a child abuser

I was very reluctant to write this. Got motivated by so many lies multiple times by Gayle, or when she hid behind fake accounts, and some gullible Filipinos who spread it without understanding. While most Filipinos are great people, negative traits are common.
So this is my side of the story.

I am not saying I was all good and the baby mama was all bad.
I was a naive, first-time father, and this is what I experienced, which I didn't expect to be possible.

From a legal perspective, this website won't help me at all. Given the circumstances and the damage to all parties involved (child, mother, and father), and the very low likelihood of returning to minimum acceptance terms on both sides, I have nothing to lose. The Filipino law system doesn't have any power outside the Philippines.

This page could be a real-world example of total systemic failure, where nobody wins, not the father or mother, nor the child.

The attached screenshots have identifiable data removed to protect vulnerable parties.

In December 2024, I gave her an ultimatum that if I am not allowed to take the baby for a few hours occasionally, my financial support will gradually decrease.

January 2025 - Very fast, I got only another demand letter for 20k without any visitation. In the meantime, baby mama is bragging about staying in luxury hotels.

September 2025: Demanding visitation rights and decreasing support were the main reasons to start a criminal case against the father under Philippine law.
(Got this copy from a policeman by messenger, while I was abroad):

Lawyers are only happy for such cases against foreigners. In Moalboal, they quoted me ₱80k just for the acceptance fee.
By the same lawyer I was informed that if the prosecutor will resolved that the case be filed in court, then a warrant of arrest will be issued. ... The case will take years, roughly 2 to 3 years.

For lawyers, such cases involve large amounts of easy money over a few years of proceedings. They also have families and children. All for the best interest of the children. Maybe lawyers' children?

The advice I got from many foreigners was to leave the Philippines instead of "fighting" in this very corrupt country.

The solution could be very simple:
The baby mama agrees to occasional unsupervised visitations and publicly apologizes for the lies and accusations against me. In return, I will contribute more than half of the child's expenses plus something extra on my end, for things I consider necessary for the child's best development. I was considering ₱15k monthly, which is definitely more than enough.
The decision is on the baby mama's side. It would cost her nothing to agree.

But the biggest risk for the baby mama is that, during unsupervised visitations, my girlfriend could help me take care of the child. (Did I mention the baby mama was dating multiple men, often hiding them from me, usually blocking me on social media when she was in "dating mode", but sometimes sending me photos showing that the baby has a "new father" as her way of disrespecting me?)

If the baby mama agrees to fair visitation and reasonable co-parenting happens, I will take this website down.

• The Philippine custody law is very gender-asymmetric and strongly favors mothers.
• According to some lawyers, "Even after acknowledgment, visitation is not automatic; the father must petition the court, proving his fitness and that visitation serves the child's interest".
• The law seems engineered to enable easy conflict monetization.
• Sadly, in practice, it also violates the International Convention on the Rights of the Child in some cases. For example, allegations under RA 9262 (VAWC) can trigger immediate protection orders and suspend contact. Even unproven or exaggerated claims can sever contact and create long-term parental alienation. And there is little accountability for false or strategic allegations.
• In my experience, co-parenting is uncommon and often misunderstood in the Philippines.

Philippine law discriminates based on gender. The law Violence Against Women and Their Children Act (RA 9262) defines violence very broadly, including mental infidelity and verbal abuse. And only the woman and the child can be a victim. There are no similar and effective laws to protect men against violence or abuse. Such a law effectively normalizes violence against men.

As a result, the VAWC can be weaponized, especially in custody disagreements, by vindictive mothers and unscrupulous lawyers, and it seems the law fails to address false accusations and the consequences.

VAWC law attacks fathers in a very insidious psychological way.

Healthy fatherhood is defined by:

• responsibility paired with authority
• protection paired with access
• obligation paired with recognition

VAWC law makes fatherhood toxic:

• responsibility without authority
• obligation without access
• culpability without voice

Is VAWC used as a Legal Weapon?

• No physical violence required.
• Temporary Protection Orders can be issued ex parte.
• Burden of proof shifts to the accused.
• Extremely slow to dismiss.
• The complainant's filing cost is near zero.
• High leverage in custody and money disputes.
• Turning private disputes into criminal cases.
• Child access is easy to use as a negotiation hostage.
• Alienation reframed as child safety.
• No symmetric enforcement mechanism.

While gossip can have some positive functions, such as sharing information or reinforcing community norms, it often becomes toxic and malicious. Many Filipinos are quick to spread rumors or hearsay about others' personal lives, relationships, finances, or health issues. They spend their days indulging in idle speculation, criticizing and belittling others' motives or intentions without any basis or evidence. Combined with a general lack of critical thinking in the population, false and malicious gossip spreads quickly, and many gossip mongers judge and react as if it were true.

When I was supposed to receive the subpoena for the court case, the abuser used a dummy account to post many lies in public local Facebook groups. I was planning to attach a few examples of the bullshitter and the bullshit eaters , but, after consideration, I decided it would just be a waste of space.
Such people are often called flying monkeys in popular psychology, mainly in the context of narcissistic abuse.

• Marites_Culture_in_the_Philippines_An_Emergent_Online_Gossip_Phenomenon
• Tsismis Culture and Its Influence on Social Relationships in the Philippines
• Exploring the Marites Culture of Filipino Middle-Aged Women

Multiple studies show that child development is enhanced when both parents are actively involved. Children who grow up without a present father face significant statistical disadvantages, including higher risks of poverty, school dropout, incarceration, and emotional or behavioral problems. Father's impact on child development

Yet after separation, many mothers deny fathers access to their children.

The same mothers later cry publicly about how their children's fathers are "all bad" and "not supportive".

Is Gayle Arciel Celis an abuser? Towards the baby's father, definitely yes:

• Cheating and lying
• Denying visitations out of spite
• Using the law for legal harassment
• Using a smear campaign to damage reputation

Is Gayle Arciel Celis a child abuser?

• In the child's best interest is to have both supportive parents. The International Convention on the Rights of the Child recognizes this right: 🧑 👶.
  Gayle Arciel Celis deliberately and consistently hampers the healthy relationship of the child with his father, therefore restricting the child's optimal development.
• By all the malicious and exaggerated legal actions against the father, by weaponizing the Filipino law, it will make it more difficult to obtain a European Union second nationality and passport. Henceforth, she limits her child's future options to studying abroad and, for the latter, to working abroad.
• She deliberately destroyed the child-father bond to the point that healthy restoration is almost impossible.
• Her way of making money in Pattaya also didn't give a good moral example.
• As I mentioned later, the mother said that she was bullied at school for not having a father. Now she deliberately put the child at the same risk of bullying she experienced.
• Mother mentions she had suicidal ideation. As shown in the first attached screenshot, her suicidal intention was triggered over a simple boundary: "Can't talk now". Parental alienation often causes such mental health issues. By continuing the parental alienation strategies, she endangers the child to face similar behavioral problems in adulthood.

Gayle Arciel Celis already applied many of the strategies of parental alienation described here 🗃

Parental alienation is considered a form of child abuse, specifically psychological and emotional abuse, because it involves a deliberate, sustained campaign by one parent to manipulate a child into fearing, hating, or rejecting the other parent without legitimate justification. It disrupts the child's right to a healthy relationship with both parents. It causes severe, long-term developmental and emotional damage.

Parental alienation needs enablers to thrive. Enablers who will support, justify, or ignore toxic behavior, and minimize the abuse to keep the peace.
Attorneys, who don't have any training in parental alienation and often have no negotiation skills, see conflict as an occasion for easy money. On the contrary, the real physical violence, such as a drunk, dirt-poor local husband beating his wife, is often not addressed.
Law in general doesn't recognize many forms of psychological abuse and manipulation if it is towards men. Many foreigners complain that they are treated as ATMs in the Philippines.

Is Gayle Arciel Celis a good mother?

A good mother would be happy if the biological father were engaged in the child's life, instead of using the child as a tool to extract money.

Is Gayle Arciel Celis taking good care of the child?

I haven't gotten a chance to learn about raising a child thanks to baby mama's last three years of alienation. However, still, I see the baby mama failed to apply basic healthy diet and regular dental hygiene, which resulted in many broken baby teeth at the age of 4.

Is Gayle Arciel Celis a good person?

Unfortunately, Gayle became a totally heartless person, not only against me.
One time, I mentioned to her that my girlfriend had a chemical pregnancy / early miscarriage because of her harassment, and all the bad things she's doing are too much.
But she was only satisfied with confirmation that her vindictiveness was working.

Definitely, she's a narcissist.

Most people can be self-corrected. Please tell me where I'm wrong, and if you are right, I'll adjust. It needs some communication skills and a little good intentions. Communication skills are lacking in Gayle's family. Her mother, Hazel, who is 40+, has communication skills on a teenage level. She used to write me messages in her native language, Cebuano, when she got angry. (Google Translate usually made little sense of her messages.) She also had a habit of unsending messages if I didn't respond promptly after she sent them. Just recently, she unblocked me, called me, but I didn't respond, and she blocked me again. As of February 2026, both Hazel and Gayle are blocking the communication.

• I know you may be bullied at school for not having a father, just like your mother.
• I know your chances of receiving a good education are lower compared to neighboring countries:
  • Filipino students' proficiency plummets to near zero by senior high school
  • Grade 5 students in the Philippines trail Southeast Asia in reading and math proficiency
• And your chances of getting a high-paying job are much lower than in my country.
• I know your Filipino side of the family may soon expect you to work for them instead of enjoying your own life, and may guilt-trip you using the concept of "Utang na Loob."
• I know you do not have a strong male role model in your family, and the number of temporary men your mother introduces as a "new father" does not help either.
• I know you are passing the critical period for natural language acquisition (for naturally learning my native language).
• I know you will never meet your grandmother and great-grandmother in person. They were asking about you last time I visited them.

So far, full authority is only on your mother's side. Authority implies responsibility and accountability.

I did not abandon you. I was blocked.

When you reach legal age and wish to study in the European Union, you can count on me until you become fully independent.

• wherespapa.com
• Why is the Philippines the most fatherless in Asia?
• My Philippines nightmare experience
• Stories of vawc cases against foreign boyfriends
• Be Careful of the Violence Against Women and Their Children Act

Other resources:

• FB: Parental Alienation PH
• FB: Parental Alienation Philippines
• FB: Make PARENTAL ALIENATION a crime
• x: Parental Alienation PH